What do you think of when you hear the term “boundaries”? We tend to have a negative connotation when it comes to this concept but I want to share with you, why your lack of boundaries is hurting your confidence. The best way I’ve heard them explained is by my coach, Brooklyn Jolley. She explains, “they are not created to control other people. When you have boundaries in your own life, you give clients permission to have boundaries in their own lives, too. Setting and holding gives you your power back. Boundaries are made out of love. when you respect you, you give everyone else permission to 1) respect you and 2) respect themselves.”
Respecting yourself boosts your confidence. Being respected by others boosts your confidence. The way I see it, having boundaries boosts your confidence.
Do you wish you could feel more confident, especially in your interactions with other people? Work on your boundaries.
Productivity
Not having boundaries is a fast track to overwhelm and burnout. When you are doing everything without placing any limits, you are going to wear yourself out.
They don’t have to be harsh or huge things that you are committing to. Again, they aren’t about control. Some that may be helpful for you are:
- saying no to things you don’t want to do.
- blocking time for yourself to rest every week.
- limiting time spent with people that are hard to be around. (And not feeling bad about it!)
Trauma
Boundaries played a key role in healing from my most recent trauma experience. I needed to have guidelines for myself and feel the sense of “control” that the trauma took away from me.
Some that helped me heal after trauma are:
- Avoiding toxic positivity.
- making rest a priority
- keeping my support circle small.
Boundaries and Confidence
Boundaries are integral to your overall confidence. It’s hard to feel confident when you are worn out and not prioritizing yourself. When you have limits in place, and you are being respected by others – it boosts your confidence.
So, no, you don’t have to set them. You also don’t have to be confident either. But personally, I think confidence is a necessity. Do you?!
If so, and you need help identifying where you need boundaries and how to set and keep them – check out my coaching offers here. If you have any questions about my offers, send me an email and I’m happy to answer them.
I hope this post gave you a new perspective. You are worthy of a life that feels good. Here’s to a confident April!
